Boundaries are simply a way to make sure we always feel safe and in control over our own destiny.
Some people like to keep aspects of their life private—a situation at home, or at work, or why they aren’t comfortable going out to crowded places and so on.
It can seem trivial at first—pressuring you to go out when you would rather stay in after a long day at work—but these things add up in time and can cause real problems down the line.
That other person is often everything we dreamed of—smart, funny, attractive, the whole works. What is the point of entering into a relationship if you’re going to start finding faults with it straight away?
That might be true but we could prevent a lot of heartbreak—for ourselves and the other person involved—if we could only critically assess the situation at the beginning.
If you don’t like what you see, consider breaking things off because it’s only a matter of time before you’re subjected to the same treatment. Determine the type of the relationship that exists between them and make sure you’re comfortable with it before moving on.
If it seems that they might get back together (frequent calls, emergency situations where your partner is a shoulder to cry on, and so on), take heed.
Sugarcoating is one thing, pretending to be a completely different person is another.