” or “What is the situation eliciting that’s making me resentful or stressed? If you held the role of caretaker, you learned to focus on others, letting yourself be drained emotionally or physically, Gionta said.” Then, mull over your options: “What am I going to do about the situation? Ignoring your own needs might have become the norm for you. Beyond relationships, your environment might be unhealthy, too.
Since they don’t, it’s important to assertively communicate with the other person when they’ve crossed a boundary.
In a respectful way, let the other person know what in particular is bothersome to you and that you can work together to address it, Gionta said.10. Like any new skill, assertively communicating your boundaries takes practice.
Resentment usually “comes from being taken advantage of or not appreciated.” It’s often a sign that we’re pushing ourselves either beyond our own limits because we feel guilty (and want to be a good daughter or wife, for instance), or someone else is imposing their expectations, views or values on us, she said.“When someone acts in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable, that’s a cue to us they may be violating or crossing a boundary,” Gionta said.3. With some people, maintaining healthy boundaries doesn’t require a direct and clear-cut dialogue.
Usually, this is the case if people are similar in their communication styles, views, personalities and general approach to life, Gionta said.
Partners might need to talk about how much time they need to maintain their sense of self and how much time to spend together.4. Fear, guilt and self-doubt are big potential pitfalls, Gionta said.