“As your children become aware of your dating life, be prepared for some natural pushback,” said Mc Dermott. Watch a movie with them where a single mom starts dating again and see what conversation it sparks.
“They may be harboring the belief that you will get back with their other parent, or even embarrassed to have to think about their mom being romantic with someone new.” The answer? “This is a great way for your kids to see that a desire you have for adult love and romance is actually quite common,” added Mc Dermott.
There were stretches of time when he wasn’t around; either by his own volition or my mother protecting us from his disappointments. Having such an inconsistent father was my first example of what kind of father not to be.
The same rang true in my friends’ households and even strangers in the neighborhood. Over time, I have shaped my own ideas about fatherhood and how I want to parent my children.
After that, I finally got smart (and we all got some therapy).” Amber now has a hard rule: “If we haven’t been serious and exclusive for six months or more, you don’t meet my kids.” Dating while parenting very young kids is different than dating as a parent of older kids or teens, explains dating expert Trish Mc Dermott, who was on the founding team of Match.
And aside from their ages, there are plenty of other factors that affect how you integrate your kids into your dating life — such as their ability to accept that dating, love and romance are positive aspects of adult life, plus your general approach to parenting and how open you are with your kids.
“My life as a single person is pretty great — it takes a lot for me to try to make room for a romantic relationship,” said Megan G., who lives with her 9-year-old son in Richmond, VA and has been single for six years.