There is another dangerous mentality in Christian circles I want to address…”flirting to convert.” Look…Christians are called to be missionaries.
The brokenness you see in yourself and the brokenness you experience from your spouse point both of you to the only perfect one, God. Get to know yourself.” And as soon as the person you are dating smacks his or her gum the wrong way, you are out. If you aren’t ready to date, don’t allow the cultural pressure to override God’s plan. I know too many men and women who refused to listen to people around them, and their prideful arrogance resulted in a failed marriage. Find men and women you trust, and allow them to speak into your relationship.
If you are a Christian, there is no reason to date without a trajectory towards marriage. Hopefully one will end up as my spouse.” Not a good idea. So, the default for years is to leave as soon as a flaw arises. Disclaimer: If you are single, understand it is your responsibility to steward your time well. “Sex before marriage is bad.” This was the extent of my understanding of Christian dating as a teenager and young adult.
She stressed the importance of shared spirituality for building a solid relationship foundation saying: “My faith decides my core values.
My core values are the epicenter to how I live my life, so faith in the other person bonds that spiritual connection”.
Dating with a trajectory towards marriage means dating with a purpose. I fear this mentality in the dating culture is actually promoting divorce. Suddenly, when marriage begins, you are asked to flip a switch. Singleness is a gift from God, but singleness is not an excuse to be lazy. And to my church’s credit, they drilled this one point home constantly. If I could get on my knees and beg you to follow one of these principles, it would be this one.