It means we get honest about being in a true relationship, we come clean about our deep desire to share life with someone who loves us and we love, it means we take a very grown-up step and accept responsibility for the power of our sexual energy, then decide to share it with one person only, in the context of love, exclusiveness, growth, dedication to God, and respect. Example: “I want a man/woman that has a good heart, sexy muscles, does yoga, can speak French, is taller than me, loves to talk about spirit and do yoga, is ambitious, a good listener, always speaks the truth, loves me for exactly who I am, is generous and enjoys travel and popcorn during movies. I find that people dismiss this quickly, so much so that I began to suspect it is a very well-kept secret.
Sexual energy is our vital force, it is the power that can create life. I want a solid real relationship, based on truth and love, based on both of us wanting the other to grow, and to be happy One day Alice came to a fork in the road and saw a Cheshire cat in a tree. When somebody wants to manifest a new and healthy relationship in their lives keeping the vocabulary clean (no curse words, no negativity), is key.
Dating sites can work too, (they worked for me) but for dating sites to be effective all other steps must be very much in place because of the nature of the introductions, i.e.: both parties come in expecting a “date” rather than casually meeting.
This was effective because it allowed me enough time to share a conversation with no strings attached (i.e.: nobody had to pay for an expensive dinner), and, most importantly, it came with a clear exit strategy.
If the chemistry was not there, then one hour was not a long time and nobody’s feelings got hurt.
Yoga happens as we learn of our habitual patterns and perform the most magical alchemy of all, that of transforming ourselves. It is important to get to know the person before the sexual communication begins because sex tends to color things, make it all strange, a little disorienting, and “the right man will wait”, if he does not want to, then he is simply not the right man.
You can read that again, it was the best advise my friend Michele ever gave me.
February 14 is around the corner and don’t we all get to reflect, think about, or even hate the whole theme?